Demi Lovato Disses Taylor Swift, Dishes on Wilmer Valderrama Breakup

Tell us how you really feel Demi!

In a very candid interview with Glamour, the outspoken Demi Lovato opens up about embracing her sexuality, her previous comments on Taylor Swift,  loving her body and ending her relationship with Wilmer Valderrama.

Here are some highlights from the interview:

Lovato on how she feels different today than she did in 2010…
“I feel healthy, I feel happy. Back then I felt an emptiness inside of me, and I reached for so many things—a person, a substance, a behavior—to fill that void. And now there’s not a void anymore. The void is filled by me taking care of myself…. Getting sober was difficult. I went into rehab, I came out, and I didn’t stay sober. I still had issues occasionally. Now some days it’s difficult; some days it’s easy. But I like to focus on what I’m doing now, which is giving back.”

Demi Lovato Covers Glamour Magazine
CREDIT: Carter Smith / Glamour

Lovato on women embracing their sexuality…
“I was judgmental of artists who were exploring their sexuality, and I thought, Why are they doing that? They don’t have to. They’ve got a good voice…. Now I realize these artists were embracing a part of life I should be OK singing about as well. There’s nothing wrong with a woman being proud of an element of her life that’s talked about in rap music all the time! We don’t have music that talks about sexuality from a female standpoint.”

Lovato on the comments she’s made in the past about Taylor Swift (“Don’t brand yourself a feminist if you don’t do the work”) and how she sees herself doing the work…
“Just speaking out. I’m not afraid to talk about the fact that women get paid less than men in the United States and how unfair that is. Talking about it at all is doing the work. And I think every woman does her part in some way. But I think in certain situations, certain people could be doing more if they’re going to claim that as part of their brand. To be honest, and this will probably get me in trouble, I don’t see anybody in any sort of squad that has a normal body. It’s kind of this false image of what people should look like. And what they should be like, and it’s not real…. It’s not realistic. And I think that having a song and a video about tearing Katy Perry down, that’s not women’s empowerment. We all do things that aren’t, but I have to ask myself, Am I content with calling myself a feminist? Yes, because I speak out.”

Demi Lovato Covers Glamour Magazine
CREDIT: Carter Smith / Glamour

Lovato on how her Disney roots still affect her and Nick Jonas…
“PTSD. [Laughs.] We used to work so much and so hard for very little that when our schedules get too busy, I immediately think about the past. It gives me anxiety, and it’s kinda like legit PTSD.… You work so hard, and you don’t really reap the rewards, or I didn’t. But I was on such a platform that gave me the rest of my career—I couldn’t complain. [So now] whenever our schedules start to get busy, I start getting triggered because the things I used to do to cope were unhealthy. When I have a long day, I think, if [I went back to those things], I’d be able to get through it. But we now work with our manager, and we have amazing schedules.”

Lovato on her triggers other than a busy schedule…
“Seeing cocaine in movies. I’ve never watched The Wolf of Wall Street. I can’t. I don’t like to go out to clubs, because I find myself seeing remnants of drugs in the bathroom. I did the Victoria’s Secret Swim Special, and being surrounded by supermodels’ bodies was triggering to me. I remember asking, ‘How do you maintain your figure?’ Some said, ‘I really have to work at it.’ Others said, ‘It’s genetics.’ It was interesting to hear that it wasn’t through unhealthy [behaviors]. It was a great learning experience. I still felt sexy, having a different body than these women. I had Wilmer there, who loved my curves—that helped.”

Demi Lovato Covers Glamour Magazine
CREDIT: Carter Smith / Glamour

Lovato on ending her relationship with Wilmer Valderrama in June…
“I think it’s healthy to be able to start over with someone else. Being sick was always a part of my relationship with him; I always had something wrong with me. I needed to let go of that. It was hard to depart from somebody who saw everything, but it may be nice to start fresh with somebody. Because that person I was when I was a lot younger is not who I am today.”

Lovato on why she still posts photos of her body on social media despite the haters…
“Because I don’t look at the criticism anymore. If somebody calls me fat, even in a vulnerable moment, I laugh to myself and think, I’m doing everything I can, so there’s nothing I can do about it. I don’t have a six-pack. Maybe I don’t even want a six-pack. It doesn’t sound very appealing.”

Glamour’s November issue is on national newsstands October 11 and available now digitally at glamour.com/app.

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